When flying, it's possible to carry the cremated remains of a loved one in a TSA-approved urn that can be x-rayed. Usually it can't be checked in with the rest of your luggage. Some companies advertise that you can send them miniscule amounts of the cremains, which they'll turn into cloudy lockets tinted like amethyst or polished like pearl. You can simply put them into a pouch with the rest of your jewelry—more precious now than any resin or silver statement necklace. Why not just keep snippets of hair like the Victorians did, my husband asks— to the end, wary of rules, penalties, the red tape of forms. Or consider a record company which will press, for a fee, your ashes into a vinyl album. Moving over those places in the grooves, sometimes the needle will jump and make static, crackling sounds: your voice from the beyond, or simply the sound of matter (your own), poured into a sheet of PVC which could take a thousand years or more to decompose.


