Natalie – Glad to hear I’m not actually any more nuts than you are. That’s reassuring!
As for de-linking, in my case it has no relationship to whether or not the blog in question links back to VN. But if they stop blogging for more than a few months, they’re gone. I usually retain the Bloglines subscription so if they resume blogging, I can restore the link. I think reciprocal linking is dumb. But then again, I don’t really care if people like me or not. I suppose that’s obvious.
Karen – That last phrase does have a nice ring to it!